LET'S DIG DEEP IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.

 (He that struggles with us strengthens our nerves, and sharpens our skill. Our antagonist is our helper…by EDMUND BURKE….1790)

In these words of Edmund Burke lies the wisdom to see the sweetness when there should have been bitterness, to see self examination where there should have been blaming, to see love where there should have be hatred and to see lifting   where there could have been casting down.

My friend, most of our challenges come, not from those who respect and love us, but from our antagonists or perceived enemies. If the antidote to the behavior of this group is uncovered, the wellspring of joy in relationships will be opened.

Rapid growth in interpersonal relationships occur when you move from seeing things your own way, to viewing issues from the perspective of others; learning to understand people better; cross checking when necessary what you are told by them or about them; wisely correcting their mistakes and yours;

Forgiving them or asking to be forgiven and endeavoring to elevate them to a higher level.

My valued friend, growth in hierarchical relationships occurs when you learn to respect authority, even if the occupants of those positions are not intelligent as you. It occurs when you learn to respond appropriately to childish outbursts from your seniors or peers, and when you learn to give credit to your team members who are deserving of such, while encouraging those who are not.

None of these will happen if you have an inferiority complex. Believe that you are God’s special creation with a vital purpose, just as good as the wealthiest or the most powerful man on earth. Seek daily for wisdom to dig deep about your identity.

Dear esteemed friend, know how to respond appropriately in all relationship situations, realizing the vast individual idiosyncrasies of people and the effect on reactions to various stimuli, acknowledging the iceberg principle..Meaning what you see in people is far less that what you don’t see about them, necessitating the need to dig deeper always in issues about people before responding or given your own verdict.

MY LEARNED TEACHER TOLD ME THAT:

1.   Your relationship language is the product of your life experiences which affects what you desire and your interpretation of what people do or say.

2.   Suffice to say that in all our dealings with people, we should not focus only on what we think we are offering, but observe also what the person thinks we are offering and what he wants us to offer.

3.   Understanding the language of other people, will also yield significant results if applied to customer service and team leadership activities.

4.   In corporate interpersonal relationships, the differences in our individual disposition can be harnessed, to bring out diversified but enriched perspectives from which the organization can benefit.

5.   A universal language for getting on with people is appreciation, meaning that everyone has a need for appreciation.

6.   Every family should have periodic planning sessions. A time to discuss the expectations of each member, and the principles that will govern interactions, to achieve a stated family vision.

7.   Teams in corporate organizations, families, and religious settings, social and educational institutions will do better if they complete one another than compete with each other.

8.   My friend, learn to rejoice with those who are winning, even if you are not on top. Empathize with those who are losing regardless of whether you are winning or not. You don’t need people to go down, for you to go up.